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What If Your Family Hates Your Boyfriend?

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dating someone that your family is often criticizing?  There is nothing worse than feeling like your

family doesn’t like the man that you have chosen to be with.  Most likely, your family doesn’t like your boyfriend

because of something that you have told them about him.  Often, we create our own drama.  Remember, everything negative that you have

told your family about him, they remember. 

Even though you may forgive and forget, your family is often going to

hold it against him forever. 







Many women

make the mistake of telling their families everything negative that happens in

their romantic relationship.  They often

feel that they want support from their family members when something goes

wrong. If you feel that he is ignoring you or not treating you right, you often

run to your family for a shoulder to cry on. 

However, is that the best way to handle problems in the relationship? 







You May

Be the Cause of Why Your Family Hates Him







The moment

that you start complaining about how he is hurting you, your family will come

to your defense.  He can be the best guy

in the world and yet your family won’t be able to see it because of the things

that you have told them.







He is most

likely respectful to your family. For the most part, he respects you in front

of them.  He knows that he has a lot on his

plate in order to show them that he is a good man for you.  However, he will often feel like you don’t

want to be together with him if he hears that you are trashing him to your

family. 







Can You Reverse

This?







Yes, you can

reverse your family from hating your boyfriend if you stop telling them your

relationship business.  If you have a

problem with him, don’t run to your family asking them to listen to your

relationship problems. Instead, call a pastor, counselor or phone psychic.  I wouldn’t even call a friend because they

will hate him as well.  Pastors, counselors

and phone psychics are people that you will never have as a part of your life.  They are safe people to turn to because they

will encourage you to make good choices, but you won’t have to worry about them

hating your boyfriend.







The good

thing about talking to people outside of your loved ones is that you don’t have

to worry about them passing judgment on your relationship.  You simply know that they are helping you,

but they won’t be able to gossip about your relationship to others in your family

and friends.  You will feel like they are

giving you good advice. 







Over time,

the less that you tell your family and friends about your relationship, the

better.  In order to have more peace in

your relationship, you are going to have to tell your family positive things

about your boyfriend.  Tell them why you

love him so much.  Tell your family the

positive things that he does.  Does he

plan on marrying you?  Is he a good financial

provider?  What is he giving to you that

causes you to have love? This is the kind of information that they need to know

about.







Unfortunately,

our family ties are strong, and our families want to come and protect us.  They want a miracle man to happen for

you.  You know, a guy that is perfect. However,

“Prince Charming” doesn’t exist. Any man that you are involved with is going to

have a problem that you will need to work out with him. 







If you love

him, its for a good reason.  They need to

know why.  When you stop complaining

about him, they will grow to like him again because they will assume that he is

changing or has not been doing anything wrong lately. They will get the message

that you do love him and that everything is moving along just fine. 







It’s

important to let them know that you are happy together with him.  If there are major problems in your relationship,

then you must decide on your own whether you need to be together with him in

the future. You should already know by now whether he is worth your time.  Please don’t tell me that you are only

keeping him around because you are lonely or because he is hot and great in

bed.  Unfortunately, those reasons are

often a recipe for a disaster relationship. 

If you follow your heart and see that there is room for growth, you can

make the relationship become much more impactful over time. 







It may be time

for you to look at your life and feel like you can overcome your

obstacles.  It’s good to have a sit-down

talk with him and tell him what is on your mind. Let him see that you are not

always going to trash him. You need to tell him that you don’t like a lot of

the things that he has done to you before in the past, but that you need to not

say negative things about him to your family. 









You don’t

want to get to the point that he doesn’t even want to be around your family

because there is tension in the room every time that they see him.  this will drive a wedge between your family

and your life partner. It’s not going to be easy to be with someone that doesn’t

want to forgive and forget either. 







It’s best to

let your man know that you are willing to start over again and keep your

relationship problems between one another. Ask him to do the same.

Relationships tend to last when couples can resolve their own problems without

the help of family and friends.







As you can

see, its not to late to change.  You have

the power to make things right again and you will if you put your mind to

it.  You will soon see change after a few

months. 

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