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Should Your Career Come Before Your Romantic Relationship?

Posted By infinitehoroscopes on Spiritual Blogging - It’s a hard

decision to have to make when your boss is demanding you to be at work more and

your boyfriend wants you to hang out with him at the same time.  What’s a girl to do when they must choose

between their boyfriend and their career?

The Pros

and Cons

Your career will always be there for

you and your relationship may not be.He may choose his career over you

someday.  You may need to make more money

because you know in your heart that he can’t provide for you financially.  You may feel that he spends his money

on himself and leaves you hanging to pay the bills.He feels that you should make more

money than him. 

Life is

about making choices. There is a good chance that he will not be around five years

from now. Most women today find that they need to keep on working well into

their 60’s and even 70’s.  Having a man

take care of you and your family are long gone. Most women today say that they cannot

assume that their man will always be able to provide for them.  Women today are taking a stand for themselves

and choosing career over love because at the end of the day, you must find a

way to put a roof over your head if you end up alone or if your man leaves


Not All Romantic

Relationships Are the Same

Its true

that not all men are the same.  Many men

stick with the same women for years and even a lifetime. However, this is becoming

rare in the 21st century.  If

you look at your grandparent’s generation, things were often different. The mentality

was different. Your grandparents may have stayed together for 20+ years and made

the relationship work.

However, in

today’s complex world, most men and women break up over silly things.  Most men and women break up because one is

getting home to late from work or someone didn’t take out the trash at night.  The mentality of most people today is that if

the relationship is not working for you, then its time to find someone new.

Long gone are the days that people stayed married or even together because of

commitment. Remember the vows, “Till death due us part?” Today, most people have

a different mindset.  Today, the real vow

is, “Till you do something that pisses me off, I will stay with you.  If you do something wrong, your out of my

life.”  Yes, you may be feeling or seeing

the same thing.  You may find out that your

friend is dating someone today and they are with someone completely new the

next year.  Yes, times are changing. 

If you ask me,

its best to put your job over your love life because you will always have to

work and often in the same career. If you are a dentist today, you will most

likely be a dentist ten years from now.  You

may work for a different company, but you are still a dentist.  However, you may be dating Mr. Joe today and

then tomorrow, you are dating Mr. Edwards. 

Love is not a sure thing anymore. 

However, if

you are with someone for 10+ years, there is a good chance that your

relationship is working out well.  It’s

important to have more balance and to spend more time with your lover than

work. I say this because relationships that last more than 10 years these days

is rare. You clearly know your man and what he is all about. 

You should

consider spending more time with him and cutting back on work because he most

likely has a stable job as well and the two of you share in the finances.  You may find that its easier to depend on

him. Always hold onto your job in case he ever left you, but don’t be consumed

by it if he wants more time with you. After all, love like this doesn’t come

around every day. 

In my

opinion, share your work and love responsibility equally. If you can’t handle

the work overload, its time to find a new job or simply a new career. It’s

important for you to understand your life a lot more differently than you did

before.  Learn how to create balance in

multiple areas of your life. 

Nobody likes

to feel that you are putting your job over them. However, in today’s world, its

about choices.

If you do a

lot of relationship hopping, then its best to always put your career first and

not love. This is because you don’t have a good track record with keeping a

lover in your life for very long. The time invested in your relationship could

have been invested in your career instead. 

If you

really want love to work for you, then perhaps you may need to work on yourself

and find out why your relationships always seem to end.  Only you can determine why something is

working for you and why it is not. At times, we may not know fully why

something is working to our advantage. 

We need to only discover what the future is going to hold for us later

down the road. 

I find that

love is something that we all need and want. 

I think that as it grows in our lives, we tend to go after something

that we want and feel like we need. 

If you truly

want to give a shot at love and your career is getting in the way, you must

give love a shot and then decide later down the road if you made the right

choices. Over time, we should have an awareness of what works for us and what

doesn’t. If you are tired of being alone, you are not alone. Everyday, millions

of women around the world are sad because they don’t have a man that will love


In today’s

world, you must be smart about your love life. Don’t expect love to be there

for you as your parents found love. Many times, love is not going to burn

bright for you. Take your time when it comes to love and learn to listen to

your heart and the facts of life. 

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