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Lifestyle Masochism: What I Talk About When I Talk About Masochism

Posted By serviceslavesecrets 20 days ago on Adult

https://serviceslavesecrets.com - Lifestyle masochism. Every now and then, there’s a word or phrase that goes floating around the local community or FetLife that’s useful, relatable, and catches on as part of the widespread vocabulary. While lifestyle masochism is a phrase that came to me basically at random and, to my knowledge, currently lives only inside my head, … Continue reading Lifestyle Masochism: What I Talk About When I Talk About Masochism

“But How Do You Just Hang Out?”: High Protocol in 24/7 Dynamics

Posted By serviceslavesecrets 88 days ago on Adult

https://serviceslavesecrets.com - “But how do you just… hang out?”  Outside of maybe but how do you remember all that (a great question for another day), it’s probably the number one question I get when I talk about high protocol in the context of my dynamic, which is 24/7, live in, just two of us in the house … Continue reading “But How Do You Just Hang Out?”: High Protocol in 24/7 Dynamics

Recommended Resources

Posted By serviceslavesecrets 94 days ago on Adult

https://serviceslavesecrets.com - BDSM Dear Raven and Joshua by Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny Manual Creation by Machele Kindle Master/slave Mastery – Updated by Robert Rubel and M. Jen Fairfield Paradigms of Power by Raven Kaldera Science of BDSM Slave-ography by Slave Patrick SM 101 by Jay Wiseman So you want to be a slave: The Realities – … Continue reading Recommended Resources

My Typical Day, Told in Slave Positions

Posted By serviceslavesecrets 169 days ago on Adult

https://serviceslavesecrets.com - Unleashing.  First thing in the morning.  Reaching over the edge of the bed for my phone and sending the message, Good morning, Mistress. May I get up, please?  Heart emoji.  Sleepily trying to get into position before she comes in.  Moving a cat off my leg.  Sitting up, cross legged on the bed, the leash … Continue reading My Typical Day, Told in Slave Positions

On Asking Permission vs. Being Offered It

Posted By serviceslavesecrets 198 days ago on Adult

https://serviceslavesecrets.com - My uniform code specifies no hair styling or makeup or jewelry unless you count my collar and watch; no tattoos, piercings, hair cutting or coloring.  It occurs to me very rarely to ask to shake it up; fashion has never been my thing, especially over convenience.    There’s one dress that’s not my uniform that’s… Continue reading →

Noticing the Fork: How the Little Protocols Add Up

Posted By serviceslavesecrets 216 days ago on Adult

https://serviceslavesecrets.com - 6 PM, and so dinner.  “You may sit,” Mistress said as she took her own place at the table.  I did.  I was moving my napkin to my lap when she added, “You may also start setting my fork on the right side.”  She moved the misplaced utensil.   I stared at the fork for a… Continue reading →

The Benefits of Silence

Posted By serviceslavesecrets 236 days ago on Adult

https://serviceslavesecrets.com - When I was fifteen, I decided to take a week long vow of silence for a school project.  It required a bit of negotiating with other teachers, and writing was deemed necessary, but a week without speech was deemed doable.  I carried a small makeshift whiteboard mostly to maintain participation points in class, attend extracurriculars,… Continue reading →

Protocols in a New Place

Posted By serviceslavesecrets 237 days ago on Adult

https://serviceslavesecrets.com - So, we bought a house and moved somewhat recently. Now, we moved in together eight weeks after meeting (and concurrently began our 24/7 power dynamic), so basically the entirety of our relationship has been living together in the one location we lived before we moved.  So for really the first time, we’ve had to see… Continue reading →

Uniforms and Challenges, the Literal and a Metaphor

Posted By serviceslavesecrets 250 days ago on Adult

https://serviceslavesecrets.com - Our contract is a simply formatted, single spaced seven or so pages, and this one phrase in it sometimes gives me more conundrums than any others: nice, clean, and of an appropriate size.  This phrase is in the uniform section, and the fact is, being a slave, as wonderful as it is, is messy.    Cooking… Continue reading →

Service Skill: Event Debriefs

Posted By serviceslavesecrets 272 days ago on Adult

https://serviceslavesecrets.com - Event Debriefs: What Are They? Event debriefs are relatively what they sound like.  The type I’m talking about here is the private post-event reflection for the host (sharing with co-hosts and whatnot can come later).   An “event” is what you make it out to be, and you should set your own standards for what… Continue reading →