After spending yet another Christmas listening to your grandma lament your singledom, it’s time to face the facts—your current dating strategy clearly isn’t working out. You’ve signed up for Tinder, OkCupid, Hinge, Bumble and a slew of other dating apps with absolutely nothing to show for it. What are you doing wrong?

You might not be doing anything wrong. Dating is a numbers game, after all. You can cast a wide net for months with no bites and then boom—Mrs. Right finally shows up.

On the other hand, it could just be that you’re doing a poor job at highlighting all the traits that make you attractive to women. What traits are those, exactly? According to the research, here are the traits that you should be emphasizing on your online dating profile.


Huh, women don’t like narcissistic braggarts? Who would have thought it?
All joking aside, you might want to tone it down when it comes to boasting about your achievements. Research shows that both men and women find humility to be an extremely attractive trait in the opposite sex.

According to a 2013 study published in the Journal of Positive Psychology, humble partners were perceived as being more attractive than less humble partners. Not only that, but the participants were more likely to give their phone number and make a date with highly-humble partners.

You don’t need to go out of your way to hide your achievements. Just make sure that you’re talking about them in a way that doesn’t make it seem like you’re constantly patting yourself on the back.


Contrary to popular belief, girls don’t specifically seek out guys with asshole tendencies. We know that it may seem that way sometimes, but it’s just not the case.

In fact, the vast majority of women are attracted to guys who display acts of kindness and altruism. In a 2017 study published in the British Journal of Psychology, researchers found that participants who performed acts of altruism were perceived as being more attractive to the opposite sex.

Altruistic individuals also had sex more often within their relationships.
Still skeptical? Another study published in the Journal of Social Psychology found that women prefer men with altruistic tendencies for long-term relationships because altruism is an indicator of good parenting qualities

So, yeah. We’ll go ahead and consider that one as case closed.

Healthy-Looking Skin

Humility and kindness are worthy traits to possess, but let’s get real for a second. It’s your physical traits which spark that initial attraction and land you a first date. Personality traits usually come second.

One physical trait that women go bananas for? A healthy complexion. According to a 2009 study published in the International Journal of Primatology, a rosy complexion was deemed the most attractive facial color because it signaled health and vitality.

Even better news? Achieving clear and attractive skin is completely within your power. Just pick up a few skin care products, establish a regular skin care routine and you’ll be well on your way to an attractive glow.

Heavy Stubble

While we’re on the topic of physical traits that are within your power to change, have you considered growing out a beard? If you want to be more attractive to women, it might just be the best thing you could do for your dating life.

Studies indicate that it’s not just any ol’ beard that women find attractive. According to a 2013 study published in Evolution and Human Behavior, women perceived men with heavy stubble as being more attractive compared to their heavily bearded or clean-shaven counterparts.

If you’re seriously thinking about growing out some heavy stubble, remember to take good care of the skin underneath. Using beard oil and washing your beard regularly is key to preventing beard acne and keeping your beard looking well-groomed.

A Good Sense of Humor

So, your friends groan at your dad jokes, do they? Well, the real joke is on them because the ladies love ’em.

Well, maybe not dad jokes specifically, but several studies have suggested that humorous men are more attractive. In a 2015 study published in Evolutionary Psychology, women who laughed at a man’s jokes were more likely to be interested in dating him.

Oh, and for any ladies out there who might be reading this article: A 2014 study published in Evolutionary Psychology found that women experienced more orgasms (and stronger ones, too) with funny male partners in comparison to other partners. Bottom line: Find yourself a funny man and you won’t regret it.


Listen, women don’t want to date a total dummy. You don’t need to be Einstein-level genius or anything like that. You just need to be on her level, intelligence-wise.

According to a 2019 study published in Personality and Individual Differences, intelligence was viewed as being a highly-desirable trait in a long-term partner. However, researchers also found that both sexes considered partners with an equal level of intelligence to be no more attractive than partners with a higher level of intelligence

Want to impress her with your big brain? Crack open a book. Start listening to educational podcasts. Serenade her with Shakespeare on your first date. Just kidding—don’t do that.


We’ve all heard the trope about women lusting after painters, singers, writers and other creative types. If we’re being completely honest, a lot of these artistic guys aren’t all that conventionally attractive—and, yet, women lust after them anyway.

Why? As it turns out, creativity may be a far more attractive quality than we give it credit for. According to a 2017 study published in The Royal Society Publishing, men who were thought to be creative were considered more attractive in comparison to non-creative men.

You don’t need to be a talented writer or an artist in order to woo a woman with your creativity. If you’re someone who thinks outside the box, that counts as being creative. Try to show off your creative side on your dating profile, and you might just get more girls to swipe right


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